Be careful who you confide in!

Be careful who you confide in! 

an adaptation of Bob Gass's Be careful whom you confide in.

Constantly talking about “your Problem” can portray you as a victim instead of an overcomer.  Nobody wants to back a loser.  It is always wise to control your mouth, your thoughts, and your focus.  Remember, silence can never be misquoted.

However, if you need help with a problem in your personal life, your family, or your career, keep the following things in mind:-

1. Bad news is often remembered longer than good news:  Long after you have resolved the issue and moved on with your life, the wrong people will continue to focus on it and talk about it.
2. Be careful who advises you: There are many sources of wisdom in this world, ‘but the wisdom that is from above is…pure…peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and…hypocrisy’ (James 3:17).  Note the words, ‘the wisdom that is from above’.  Confide only in a counselor who walks according to the principles of God’s Word.
3. Make sure the person you trust isn’t confiding in others you wouldn’t trust: They say you can tell a man by the company he keeps.  And it’s true! Before you share, ask yourself, what do I know about this persons' experience and perspective on the issue at hand or in handling sensitive and confidential matters?

It is not everyone who smiles at you that is your friend. Be careful who you open up to, only few people truly care, the rest just want to have something to gossip about. Remember, the devil was once an angel.

“A true friend is not only someone you can confide on, it is someone who can mirror the trust you have shown by confiding in you as well.” - Ashley Young

As a guide, make sure the person you're about to confide in is an experienced, trusted friend, counselor or guide.