Who really are your true friends? Courtesy Bob Gas

Who are your true friends?  Stop and think about that for a moment. 

How many of the people you consider friends, truly care about you?  How many encourage you in your visions and dreams, and are there for you when you hit a wall?  If we are honest, most of us would have to concede that a significant number of so-called friends and associates aren’t there for us in a pinch.  In fact, many of the people we spend time with are time-wasters who drain our energy and trivialise our dreams.

In the Old Testament David and Jonathan were willing to lay down their lives for each other.  And Ruth told Naomi, ‘Wherever you go, I will go’.  Do you have friends like that?  If not, spend more time cultivating relationships with those who genuinely care about you; who don’t feel threatened by your success and want to see you succeed.  You don’t need to be cold or rude to the others.  Maintain their friendship, but spend your serious time with friends who believe in you and want you to achieve your God-given potential.  Novelist Elizabeth Jane Howard said, ‘Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family.  Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.’ 

Here’s a fail-safe principle when it comes to cultivating great friendships: whatever you desire in your own life, you must first give to others.  If you want true friends, you must become a true friend.  If you want a harvest of blessing in your own life, plant seeds of blessing in the lives of others.